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The search for online help

Once we caught our breath, both of us began to look for resources to help in our grief journey.   The sweet little old lady widow groups at church were nice but that's not who we were. Trying to attend with them felt awkward and we just didn't relate to the same issues that were present…
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Shovels of Dirt

Today is the day. It is December 1, 2007-- the funeral is today. Yesterday was the wake. I stood there, still in shock. I am still in shock now. I listened as people talked. It was a blur. Later, I will process the words said...but then (as now), shock and numbness are my companions. I…
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Quarantined with Grief as Your Partner – Fighting Depression

Originally, we were going to publish this last week but with all the chaos in the world, we just couldn’t find the words to write. For the first time, it was truly a struggle for us to find the words. So, here is our delayed blog. Being quarantined is hard enough. Add grief to the…
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Memorial Day 2020

Some of you may know that both of us have family members who have served or are serving.  Jeni’s son served as a Marine and her significant other retired after over 20 years of service in the Army. Teresa’s brother served in the Navy during the Vietnam war, her youngest son serves in the US…
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Mom’s Day 2020 – Not the Norm

In 2019, we made the remark that 2020 was going to be a year of “perfect vision”  and that it was going to be a phenomenal year.  Talking to others, we felt that many of us were feeling the same way...2020 was going to be the best one yet. Then...enter 2020.  On January 1 at…
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Quarantine Spring Cleaning in Grief

As widows, we often talk about “new Normal”. Right now, it seems that the world is looking at this term as well.  Many discussions are occurring about what life will be like after this quarantine. It seems like everyone is looking for the “New Normal” of the world.  Without the factories running and the constant…
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Grief in Isolation

Your world has been torn apart by the death of a loved one. At the same time, this world has gone crazy. Isolation rules the day. Everyone is talking about the pandemic and we’re all sheltering in place. You can’t even grieve with anyone.  Isolation.  At a time when you need so much support and…
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Sifting Through the Ashes

As our world addresses this situation with COVID-19, we want to let you know that we will continue to be a resource for grief and its associated facets. Our prayers and best wishes go out to all during this challenging time. May you all be safe and stay well. On to Sifting Through the Ashes…
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Visiting the Grave Site

When Bob died, one of the questions that came up was where are we going to bury him. “What cemetery do you want to use?” was a question that I heard in those first few days.  Bob’s family wanted to bury him near them and, as we had made no provisions (nor had we discussed…
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What do I do with his remains?

That’s a question I never thought I’d have to answer much less really deal with in my 40’s.  He’s gone and now you have decide things you never wanted to. There are too many decisions that have to be made right after the passing of your spouse. How will you mourn him? In private and/or…
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