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What to say and what to not say when someone loses a loved one

We often get asked, “What do I say to the bereaved? It’s so hard to know what to say? I don’t want to say something stupid or hurtful. Can’t you just tell me what to say?” While we cannot tell you exactly what to say in each instance, today’s article is an attempt to help…
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Widow longer than Married

This blog is about Jeni’s milestone, entering a new stage of life. So, this month marks an odd milestone for me. On July 4th, as everyone was celebrating Independence day, I became a widow for a time span equal to the time I was married. Every day that passes now makes it longer than my…
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Selling Our Dream Home

This blog is about Teresa's journey selling her home. I’ve avoided writing about this for a good long while on this blog. It’s a difficult topic for me, all wrapped up in an intricate quilt of emotions. The house was so much more than just a dwelling we lived in. It was our dream home…
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Suddenness

There can be different kinds of deaths. No death is easier or better than the other. There is the long expected death of an ill and aging person. The long slow death from cancer, other diseases or Alzheimers. Then, there is the sudden unexpected death. The one that comes out of the blue and hits…
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This is My Grandpa who died

Today’s topic is about talking to your grandchildren about your deceased spouse.  Bittersweet moments come out of the blue, especially when you have grandchildren. The conversation of who’s that in a photo of your late spouse can unwind the grief. How do you explain the importance of this person? How do you explain the love,…
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Honoring Memorial Day & When a holiday falls on a big day

As we all know, big days tend to hit hard. When holidays coincide with a big day, the feelings may be intensified. For while everyone is celebrating or remembering something major as a whole group, you are still sitting there with your special day and it seems like you are alone with your thoughts while…
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Experiencing Mother’s Day

As we enter Mother’s Day 2021, Teresa and I are celebrating with grown children and grandchildren in our lives. In addition, we are both blessed with other children who refer to us as their second mom. We are truly grateful for all of our children and grandchildren. Like most, we pray for the safety, happiness…
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Mother’s Day Without Mom

Another Mother’s Day is about to be here in the US.  For Teresa, it’s going to be another Mother’s  Day without Mom. Today, we are going to talk about the emotions associated with our moms whether they are with us or have passed. Our thoughts are with all of you as we celebrate the special…
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Compound Grief

Today, we are going to talk about how additional deaths after the loss of our spouse can compound our grief. We’ve been avoiding this topic because it’s just so hard to write about. We keep experiencing new losses. Compound, cumulative or rebound grief is a term that’s used when someone experiences multiple losses at one…
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Breathe – Just Breathe (Paperback now available!)

Breathe - Just Breathe A resource for the challenging first days after the death of a spouse. Paperback Version Now Available! The difficulty of losing a spouse often leaves us looking for resources. We have created this mini workbook to allow you to wade through those challenging first days. Look for our future books that…
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