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Those first hours — Going back to the house

This is the next in our series The First Moments. Going back to the house. Going back to the house where you lived as a couple is hard. One of the most difficult first moments we have as widows. Those first moments speak to us and remind us we are now without our loved one.…
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Those first moments – Organ Donation & Autopsy

This is the next in our series The First Moments. Just a heads up to our readers, due to the nature of this topic, it is a long read and may be difficult. However, we do feel it is important enough to cover this burdensome subject. Those difficult questions about whether or not to donate…
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Those first moments – awful first phone calls to make

This is the next in our series The First Moments. Those awful phone calls to make. These are the first phone calls one makes after learning their loved one has died. If you have someone to help you make these calls and be there with you, that is ideal. This is not easy and writing…
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Those first moments – in front of the shed

This is the next in our series The First Moments.  It can be difficult to be in the location where we lost our spouses. For Teresa, her husband was killed on a country road in a motorcycle accident. In Jeni’s case, her husband passed in front of the shed in the backyard. For a long…
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Those First Moments – Driving by the Accident Scene

This is the next in our series The First Moments. When our spouses pass, it can be difficult to be in the location where the loss occurred. In Jeni’s case, her husband passed in front of the shed in the backyard. For a long time, going by that location was difficult and still sometimes causes…
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Introducing The First Moments blog series

When we lose our spouses, our entire world changes in an instant. All of a sudden, normal everyday things become foreign, unusual and non routine in our lives. Just as we had first years of school as children, first boo-boo, first day of school, first dates, first kisses, first breakup. We now have many new…
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What to say and what to not say when someone loses a loved one

We often get asked, “What do I say to the bereaved? It’s so hard to know what to say? I don’t want to say something stupid or hurtful. Can’t you just tell me what to say?” While we cannot tell you exactly what to say in each instance, today’s article is an attempt to help…
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Widow longer than Married

This blog is about Jeni’s milestone, entering a new stage of life. So, this month marks an odd milestone for me. On July 4th, as everyone was celebrating Independence day, I became a widow for a time span equal to the time I was married. Every day that passes now makes it longer than my…
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Selling Our Dream Home

This blog is about Teresa's journey selling her home. I’ve avoided writing about this for a good long while on this blog. It’s a difficult topic for me, all wrapped up in an intricate quilt of emotions. The house was so much more than just a dwelling we lived in. It was our dream home…
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Suddenness

There can be different kinds of deaths. No death is easier or better than the other. There is the long expected death of an ill and aging person. The long slow death from cancer, other diseases or Alzheimers. Then, there is the sudden unexpected death. The one that comes out of the blue and hits…
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