Why Torn in Half?
What God has put together….let no man put asunder.
Speak now or forever hold your peace.
A man shall leave his mother and a woman leave her home and the two shall become as one.
Till Death do you part.
These are the things that one hears when a wedding takes place. A man and a woman, decide to join their lives into one. It is expected that this is just the beginning of a long journey. That death thing will take a while to get here. We will be together years before that happens and we will be old and gray and have plenty of grandchildren around us.
Then, the unexpected happens. Death comes early and you are left without your spouse to face life. Everyone expects you to move on. Everyone expects you to pick up the pieces. They forget that you have lost half your “body”, your best friend, your spouse, your partner, your everything. People now expect that you can function as a whole with half of you missing. You still have to get up in the morning and get dressed. How? It hurts so much, it is so disorienting…
What God has put together … let no man put asunder. Well, man didn’t end this but it has ended and now life continues.
Speak now or forever hold your peace. Ahh,…peace. How can I receive peace again when my life is now in pieces?
A man shall leave his mother and a woman leave her home and the two shall become as one. We did this very well. How do I now function with half of me gone? Who is going to tell me that one? How am I going to find my way? I don’t want to do life alone!
Till Death do you part. Well, we made that part. I just thought it would be longer. I thought we would have more time. Why do I get to be called a widow so very young? Aren’t widows old and gray and in their 70’s or 80’s? I don’t know any 30, 40, 50 something widows. What does it mean to be a widow? Where should I turn for help? Who do I trust now?
The name Torn in Half was chosen to tell the world that when you put two together to become one…it is difficult for half of that one to disappear and life to continue. It literally feels like you physically, emotionally and spiritually have been torn in half. Your heart is ripped apart feeling like it will never heal. Life will never be the same but you can survive this part of your life journey and you can find joy and peace again. We call this a grief journey and it has many ups and downs. We are here to support you on that journey. It will be your very own unique personal journey and it is our hope that we can provide some insight and assistance to you as you enter this phase of your life.
Welcome to Torn in Half!
Wising you peace and blessings along your journey,
Teresa & Jeni