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It’s Ok to Sit Where You Are a Bit

Last time, we wrote about achieving milestones…what if you aren’t ready for that? In this journey, there are times when we can barely breathe…let alone think of doing anything.  Achieve goals? I can’t even breathe. This is OK and is part of the process.  During these times, just focus on breathing and doing what you…
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It’s OK to have Life Milestones

Life continues whether we want it to or not. In the beginning of your journey it may feel like you’ll be stuck and never have another life goal or milestone occur. As time moves forward and your grief journey moves along, there will be new milestones and accomplishments. Life milestones happen. These accomplishments can be…
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It’s OK to say Yes

Last blog we spoke about “It’s OK to say No”. Today we are going to talk about “It’s OK to say Yes”.  Most of the widows we speak to and especially us have found that everyone has opinions on what we should and shouldn’t do now that we are widows. Some of them seem to…
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It’s OK to say No

When becoming a widow, it is hard to wrap yourself around any thoughts. Just breathing takes effort. Decisions become hard, difficult, beyond your scope. And, during this time, everyone has an opinion about what is right for you. As you have lost your life compass, it becomes easy to let others swirl you around and…
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It’s been a week & it’s going to be OK

This week has been a difficult one for both of us. We have each had major life events that have caused upheaval in our lives. It was our intent and on our schedule to write another version of our “It’s OK” series. We agreed that, at the moment, we both were not OK and that…
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It’s OK to claim your own journey your way.

To be honest, this has been a tough year for me. I keep thinking, I should be fine. I should be over it. I should not let things get to me. Woulda, shoulda, coulda… Those words can destroy you. Yesterday was Bob’s birthday. He would have been 54. It has been 14 years since he…
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Honoring Memorial Day

Honoring Memorial Day In honor of those who have served and paid the ultimate price of death and especially those who they have left behind. We dedicate this blog to you on this Memorial Day weekend. Memorial Day is a day to remember. Remember the fallen. Remember who’s been left behind to carry on. Memorial…
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It’s OK When Friends Change

Friends.  What happens with them when we are grieving?   Sometimes in our grief journey things get awkward or even downright weird with friends. Some friendships may deepen and others drift. Maybe it’s your married friends, maybe it’s an old pal, maybe work friends. They start to avoid you, you hear stuff they say about you,…
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It’s OK to NOT be a Super Parent

In our next installment of It’s OK we’re here to tell you it’s OK to be an OK parent. No need for the super parent or martyr. Just surviving is A-OK. So, in an instant you have gone from a family with a mom, dad, kids, pets, etc to a single parent family. You now…
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It’s OK to have Boundaries

Boundaries…where do you start? Let’s define boundaries. Boundaries are defined as the ability to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions. Webster defines boundaries as the ability to become strong, healthy, or successful again after a change happens. Boundaries are saying yes to what you want to and no to what you don’t want and…
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