Everyone has an opinion on how to live your life. Truly, they all had opinions before but we were able to drown them out. Now, their opinions seem amplified as we search for the answers to our new lives. We are trying to find new normal.
“You should date”. It’s too soon to date. You’re young…you’ll marry again. You should sell your house. You should keep your house. Take some time off work. Don’t you think you have been off work long enough. It’s time to move on with your life. Why are you always depressed? How are you so happy?
You can’t win trying to please them. They do not understand where you are in this journey. They have no clue and while you don’t want them to truly understand…you want them to at least try to understand without them adding to your emotional roller coaster. Problem is…they are also struggling for words and sometimes… their words of “comfort” are more troublesome to us.
You would like some sound advice and someone to talk to but who? Who can you trust? Who will get it? Who won’t tell you something that’s stupid or hurtful thinking they are helping? So, we learn to not talk to anyone but try to live and breathe.
Remember…this is YOUR journey. You may be feeling like you should be grieving more or maybe you feel like you are grieving too much? There is no right or wrong, it is your own personal unique journey. Although there are similar stages and similar steps, there are no two grief journeys that will look exactly the same, last the same amount of time, or end up with the exact same result.
That’s because our relationship with our deceased loved one is as unique as a fingerprint. You may have lost your best friend, you may have lost a spouse you didn’t know anymore, you may even have lost a jerk you just happened to be still with at the time of their passing. It doesn’t matter…because death still hurts and it will be a journey for you that will be as unique as you.
If you are looking for some way of talking but there’s no one to talk to…try journaling. Writing can have great benefits. Even a letter to your loved one can help in processing your emotions. If you are up to it, try talking to a trusted person, professional, mentor, coach, pastor, or spiritual guide is a great option.
Want to learn more, want to hear from others who on their journey, join us!
Jeni and I will be speak about Grief. See our Presentations and Workshops site for details of topics we can speak about. https://torninhalf.com/presentations-and-workshops/
What have you experienced? We’d love to hear from you. Please share your thoughts with us. Please contact us.
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Teresa Bitner – PMP, M.Ed. ACC & Jeni Elkins – BA, MBA
