Category Archives: General

Losing my Second Mom

Like most in December 2019, I was looking forward to the new year of 2020 and all its possibilities. Like everyone, I was not prepared for what the year would bring. However, my year turned much quicker than it did for most of the world. On January 1st at 12:30 pm, I received the news…
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Help and Grief: What do I do?

Today, we’re returning to the discussion of community in your widow journey and the importance of accepting help from community. Our last post about community was when it’s uncomfortable and setting boundaries. The topic of accepting help that is kind, helpful and nurturing can be difficult when you’re so bereaved you can’t even figure out…
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2021 is Here

Many of us had goals and plans for 2020 and then the year hit us all in a way we never expected.  Our lives were turned upside down and we had to find new ways to interact with each other and to cope with life.  For those early in their grief journey, this may have…
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Unsent Christmas Cards

Christmas, Hanukkah and all of the holiday season can be challenging and difficult enough without the addition of grief and 2020. This year has been difficult on its own. Recognizing this, we have written several blogs to provide you with the resources you may need at this time. We’ve written on Surviving the first holiday,…
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Uncomfortable Community

Having community around you can be great in your time of grief. It can also become burdensome. Today we are going to talk about what to do when your community makes you uncomfortable. We will be referencing our article Boundaries in Grief: Struggles and Solutions for how to make and set boundaries that can help…
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Finding Community and Connection

In our previous post, our guest bloggers Pastor David and Shannon Carroll spoke about the importance of community during their journey with amnesia. Today, we would like to discuss the concept of community in your widow journey.  We plan to follow with a series of questions about community and the importance of maintaining healthy boundaries…
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The Promise to be OK

A while ago, Jeni was watching an episode of “This Is Us”. This particular scene was from some time after the father had died from the aftermath of a house fire and one of the sons was reminding his mother that she had promised that “everything would be ok and she would take care of…
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Drowning Yourself in The What If’s

Have you ever felt that gnawing sense of What if... ? or maybe If only?   When facing the grief of your loss, one of the things that  may eventually happen is that your mind will go over the events of the day and time of the loss again and again. In this line of processing,…
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Raw Emotions

To say that the widow journey is an emotional roller coaster is a major understatement.  It is a twisted, topsy turvy ride that takes us through the entire emotional gamut. Major lows, weird highs and everywhere in between. The raw emotions come on quick and easily overload us. It may feel like your emotional covering…
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Widow Groups

Recently, Teresa and I wrote about the beginning of Torn In Half and the lack of resources that were out there when we both lost our husbands. In thinking about that, I decided to go to Facebook and look for widow groups.   My Jaw dropped. There are now a ton of groups out there with…
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