Memorial Day Thoughts & Resources

Memorial day is the day we honor those who have served and paid the ultimate price for the freedoms and life that we, as Americans, enjoy. We dedicate this blog to those who have paid this price and to those that they have left behind.

Many of us will have a 3-day weekend. There will be sales, parties, barbecues and other things happening to mark the occasion. While we take our time to spend with others, we truly hope that the focus will be more on the reason for the occasion.. This is a time to remember. Remember the fallen and those who have been left behind to carry on. Remember the service men and women who gave the ultimate sacrifice to protect our rights and freedoms.

For you historians out there, Decoration Day was established on May 5, 1968 as a time for the nation to decorate the graves of the war dead with flowers. It wasn’t until 1971 that Memorial Day (as it came to be called) became an official federal holiday.

Some suggestion on how to honor our fallen heroes:

Fly the American Flag – half-staff from sunrise to noon and then full staff noon to sunset.
Volunteer and attend a Memorial Day ceremony, festival, fair, or concert.
Place American Flags on each grave in national cemeteries.
Observe a moment of silence.
- The National Moment of Silence occurs at 3pm local time on Memorial Day.
Visit a Memorial – find the visiting Vietnam Walls or other memorials.
Donate to veterans and military support groups. For a list see resources below.
Wear a red poppy.
- The wearing of the poppy dates to 1918 and is called The Flanders Field Memorial Poppy in honor of those who died in World War I.

While many who read this know the grief that comes from losing our spouse, we can only imagine the grief that comes from losing a family member in the service and having to carry on. As many of us know, the grieving can be a poignant and challenging time. Their loved one is gone and they are sincerely missed by many. Honoring them is a part of the grieving process. However it may show up, allow them to embrace grieving that loss.

We know that the grieving process is a true journey that takes time. You don’t get over it…you learn to live with it and the memories. This journey takes its own path and is deeply personal. Allow grief to happen and support those around you who are traveling the journey—however it looks.

We have the deepest respect for those who have served before us and paid that ultimate price while serving in our military. We honor both them and their surviving families that carry on without their loved ones. On this Memorial Day 2019, we remember, honor and embrace you.

Sending peace and blessings to you.

Teresa & Jeni