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It’s OK to plan your future

Alright, Christmas is over.


No matter how, you got through it. Congratulate yourself! You made it. Hopefully, you were able to enjoy parts of this holiday and take some time for yourself.

And, now …there is New Year’s Eve. Ugh. Another holiday. Not only that, but a holiday that calls for us to look to the future, set goals and make plans. Also the dreaded midnight kiss if you happen to be out celebrating. Double Ugh.

Yippee! Another one to get through. Remember what we wrote a few weeks ago? It’s OK to respond in your own way to event invitations. Yeah, that still applies to this holiday

Now, let’s talk about setting goals and moving forward. Remember it’s OK to grow and move on. What should you do? Simple, do what makes you feel most comfortable. Take a moment and think about what you would like to do this year. What do you think you will have energy to complete? What would you like to see happen? What would you like to see not happen in the coming year? What have you planned to do that hasn’t been completed? Do you still want that to happen or do you want to toss it out and forget it? What will serve you well in the coming year?

You don’t have to set resolutions. Most people don’t keep them anyway. Maybe set a few small goals and see how that goes. Then, you can set a few new ones. You can reevaluate old goals and see if they are worth keeping or modifying.

Here is a suggestion:

Take out a pad of paper and start to brainstorm. Let your thoughts flow and write down what would be important to you to happen in the coming year. Once you have that list, you can develop a few small goals. Keep the page to reference if you want to make future items to accomplish.

For extra support in writing goals we wrote Grief Goals?

Celebrate the items that you can cross off. Give yourself grace if there are items that cannot be accomplished in the year. Modify them or remove them entirely…whatever works for you.

Just know that it is OK to move forward. It is OK to plan for your future. You have the ability to guide your journey at your pace. If you need help with it, it is OK to ask for assistance. If you want to do it on your own, it is OK to do that as well. As we always say, this if YOUR Journey. You are in charge of the direction you take. Planning small steps and goals will help you to stay in the direction you would like to take. Just remember to take care of you along the way.

Peace & blessings,
Teresa & Jeni

PS: For additional support, you can download our free copy of 10 Ways to Move Forward After Loss

Torn in Half: The First Days as a resource for the first days after a loss - available on Amazon in paperback and ebook.