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Raw Emotions

To say that the widow journey is an emotional roller coaster is a major understatement.  It is a twisted, topsy turvy ride that takes us through the entire emotional gamut. Major lows, weird highs and everywhere in between. The raw emotions come on quick and easily overload us. It may feel like your emotional covering…
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Boundaries in Grief: Struggles and Solutions

Boundaries and grief.  When in grief, healthy boundaries may be the furthest thing from your mind. However, it’s a good topic to check in with so that you are getting your needs met and others aren’t overstepping their boundaries.  Boundaries are defined as the ability to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions. Webster’s defines…
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Widow Groups

Recently, Teresa and I wrote about the beginning of Torn In Half and the lack of resources that were out there when we both lost our husbands. In thinking about that, I decided to go to Facebook and look for widow groups.   My Jaw dropped. There are now a ton of groups out there with…
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The search for online help

Once we caught our breath, both of us began to look for resources to help in our grief journey.   The sweet little old lady widow groups at church were nice but that's not who we were. Trying to attend with them felt awkward and we just didn't relate to the same issues that were present…
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Shovels of Dirt

Today is the day. It is December 1, 2007-- the funeral is today. Yesterday was the wake. I stood there, still in shock. I am still in shock now. I listened as people talked. It was a blur. Later, I will process the words said...but then (as now), shock and numbness are my companions. I…
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Quarantined with Grief as Your Partner – Fighting Depression

Originally, we were going to publish this last week but with all the chaos in the world, we just couldn’t find the words to write. For the first time, it was truly a struggle for us to find the words. So, here is our delayed blog. Being quarantined is hard enough. Add grief to the…
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Memorial Day 2020

Some of you may know that both of us have family members who have served or are serving.  Jeni’s son served as a Marine and her significant other retired after over 20 years of service in the Army. Teresa’s brother served in the Navy during the Vietnam war, her youngest son serves in the US…
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Mom’s Day 2020 – Not the Norm

In 2019, we made the remark that 2020 was going to be a year of “perfect vision”  and that it was going to be a phenomenal year.  Talking to others, we felt that many of us were feeling the same way...2020 was going to be the best one yet. Then...enter 2020.  On January 1 at…
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Quarantine Spring Cleaning in Grief

As widows, we often talk about “new Normal”. Right now, it seems that the world is looking at this term as well.  Many discussions are occurring about what life will be like after this quarantine. It seems like everyone is looking for the “New Normal” of the world.  Without the factories running and the constant…
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Grief in Isolation

Your world has been torn apart by the death of a loved one. At the same time, this world has gone crazy. Isolation rules the day. Everyone is talking about the pandemic and we’re all sheltering in place. You can’t even grieve with anyone.  Isolation.  At a time when you need so much support and…
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